Science is my Secret Sauce

Science is my secret sauce as a parent.

I am uncomfortable when friends give me compliments about what an amazing mother I am to other parents.  I feel I’m in a spotlight that promotes comparison, judgement and competetion among parents which just plain prevents connection and authenticity around the experience of child rearing.  I feel a little like a cheat or a fraud because my education is why I’m an amazing mother.

I am grateful everyday for the plethora of information.  My knowledge  continuously informs my choices as a parent and understanding of my child.  I know I would be a great mother even if I had study paleontology.  But I wonder, would my mother instincts be enough?

Children are not born with a manuals. And our instincts truly only get us so far. However, there is a plethora of knowledge and understanding around how we as organisms grow and develop.

I love the science of child development.  The pure magical science of humans is a phenomenal topic to study and a true blessing to observe in real time.

Humans are the most magical creatures on our planet.  The chronological gestation of a human being from egg and sperm through adult is an epic transformational journey.  Our physical, emotional, cognitive and social development is unmatched by any other living being.

It’s so magical! Scientist still have mysteries to unlock. Evolution and progress keeps transforming our species.  The potential of human beings abilities is still yet to be discovered.  We keep pushing through glass ceilings with more knowledge and more understanding.

The greatest amount of growth and development occurs in the first 3 years of a life for a human.  Science tells us when our critical periods for development occur and how specific factors effect development.

Knowledge is power!

When you are informed with the science of human development you will parent more effectively.

I highly recommend selecting a book on child development.  Put it in your bathroom or by your bed stand.  Read it while you can and at the current developmental period of your child.

Here is a  list of some of my favorites resources to get you started. The following are excellent resources that provide clear and concise information to support you in gaining more understanding of your growing child.


The Wonder Weeks by Frans Plooij and Hetty van de Rijt

Ages and Stages by Charles E. Schaefer

Yardsticks by Chip Wood

What to Expect the First Year by Heidi Eisenberg Murkoff







I’m a self proclaimed babywearing guru.  I am deeply passionate and true believer in baby wearing.   And I want to tell everyone about babywearing!I have been wearing my daughter for over 22 months. And I will keep wearing her until I can’t carry her weight any longer.   Now I don’t wear her all the time.  She needs to walk and get her gross motor development on too.  I wear my daughter when it’s appropriate for us. Like on a hike, at the grocery store (this will change your life!), a long walk, etc.

I feel very judging when I see caregivers of very young infant in strollers rather than being worn.  I feel pulls on my heart strings and I feel my heart breaking a little.  I feel a wave of intense empathy when I see the physical distance between an infant and caregiver.  I am so passionate about baby wearing because my daughter and I have benefited from all the positive effects.

Why I love baby wearing for 3 reasons:

  1. It’s comfortable.
  2. It’s convenient
  3. It’s bonding

Benefits of Babywearing:

  1. Healthy babies
  2. Happy Babies
  3. Confort
  4. Convenience
  5. Excellent Bonding Tool
  6. Confidence in Caregivers
  7. Breastfeeding is more successful

Baby wearing is not a new concept.  We have been wearing our babies since we started having babies. It is natural.  It is instinctual. And it’s science.

Once my daughter was born I could feel my instincts calling to alway be close to my baby.  It felt right.  It felt natural.  I felt at peace when my daughter and I were together.

There are a variety of resources sand research that clearly identifies and explains the positive effect of babywearing.

Babywearing International, Inc. (BWI) is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization whose mission is to promote babywearing as a universally accepted practice, with benefits for both child and caregiver, through education and support. The heart of BWI is our network of local chapters which provide free educational meetings and support within their own communities.

Check out more from Babywearing International here:

Regardless of your feelings about baby wearing, science and research tells it is BEST PRACTICE.  Reflect on your interests and even roadblocks to baby wearing. Push yourself to a high level of parenting by choosing baby wearing because it is extremely beneficial for your child.


About Me

My name is S.R. Wing.  My passion is teaching and rearing children to be exceptional humans.  I’m an early childhood educator, mother, and pioneer for transformational child rearing.

My M.Ed., 10 plus years in early childhood education, homeschooling of my daughter, experiences as an Early Literacy Specialist, and journey through motherhood has empowered me to create Lavender Literacy: A Transformational Child Rearing BLOG.

I live in Philadelphia with my partner of 15 years, our daughter and two cats.

This is my first BLOG.  I’m putting myself and my ideas out into the interwebs.  I’m taking a risk and trying something new.  I have some things to say and this is my platform of choice to share my voice.

I am open to your feedback and questions.  I am a life long learner, excited to find growth in my new venture into blogging.

You will find mistakes in my writing.  You will read some sentences that are confusing.  This my personal BLOG.  When I write here, my focus is more on content that perfection in presentation.  Please excuse any errors in my writing.

I hope you enjoy your visit to Lavender Literacy. I hopeful my BLOG will be a place of support, love and understanding. A place to gain knowledge, wisdom and enlightenment.

~*~Love & Light~*~

S.R. Wing